Choose Memory…..

6 degrees
6° F – so cold and bleak

In January people are often concerned with looking forward, making new resolutions , moving on. But what about remembering? What, or rather how, do you choose to remember?

On Tuesday it was 6°F, bitter cold – but a few days later it’s 60° F. I can choose what to remember about this and how to remember it  –  the temperature was a fact but there was beauty and some excitement in the extreme.

Joy Harjo’s poem Remember (which I have used in groups recently  – one person said ‘at last you’ve found one I like!’), invites us to remember many things about ourselves and the world. She exhorts us to connect with our lives and our worlds, and encourages resilience and strength. It begins:

Remember the sky that you were born under,
know each of the star’s stories.

and continues with invitations to remember many things including:

Remember your birth, how your mother struggled
to give you form and breath. You are evidence of
her life, and her mother’s, and hers.

The poem calls us to Remember, as an injunction, 15 times.

People in my groups wrote deeply and movingly in different ways in response to this. Several people wrote about mothers, living or dead, someone wrote emotionally about her mother but also compassionately about her troubled self when her mother died. Some people wrote about their values and their beliefs, others wrote about specific people or events. They saw that they could choose what and how to remember – in writing about the past they chose how to think about it.

Jean-Paul Sartre said that there are things about the past that can’t be changed or denied, the facticity, but we can choose to change our attitude to those things.

In Christmas Days – 12 stories and 12 feasts for 12 days Jeanette Winterson echoes this:

…it’s a fact that our memories change as we do….you can go back in time, you can heal the past. It may be fixed as a fact – what happened happened – but it isn’t fixed in the ongoing story of our lives.


6 degrees and sunny
6°F and so beautiful and sunny

Journal prompt: Think about things you want to remember, choose the details and the attitude. Write a list poem (or simply a list) beginning each line:


When you’ve finished read it through and give yourself some feedback beginning:

When I read this I feel………….

As 2018 begins – choose what you want to remember and what you want to bring with you. Leave a comment below.



10 thoughts on “Choose Memory…..”

  1. Joy Harjo’s poem is so evocative with every word and line. But when I read “moon” in the 3rd line, I thought of the Blue moon that I hope we’ll get to see Jan. 31st. I think it’s going to be a Red moon too. Thanks so much for sharing this poem and your group’s experience. I hope you won’t mind if I borrow this for my groups this week. I love all of your posts!

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    1. Hi Susan
      Thank you – I’m delighted you enjoy these posts and that you want to use this idea with your groups. I’d love to know how it goes – do share your experience of it here if you can. Yes, seeing the moon and the lunar eclipse on the 31st should be a marvellous experience.


  2. Rather than choose a word to serve as an intention for 2018 as I often do, I did a contemplative process that was more about allowing the word to choose me. And at the end of December, “remember” chose me. I love these synchronicities. Thanks Kate!

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    1. Hi Deborah
      That’s a wonderful idea – to choose a word to set the tone for your year – and then to let the word choose you. I hope your remembering will take many forms during the year.


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